Aired June 3, 2026

Why is it so easy to dismiss “the other side”? In this episode, we dive deep into the cognitive science of human connection with Lura Forcum. We explore the concept of mentalization—the essential human ability to perceive and understand the mental states of others—and why this “social superpower” often fails us exactly when we need it most.

Lura introduces us to the concept of Mentalization—the cognitive machinery that allows us to peek inside someone else’s head to understand their intentions and feelings. It’s the glue that holds society together, but it has a dangerous glitch: it can be turned off.

Forcum doesn’t just diagnose the problem; she offers a roadmap for recovery. We explore three specific, science-backed interventions—ranging from the power of a simple potluck to the “mental gymnastics” of perspective-taking—that can help us flip the mentalization switch back to “on.”

Lura Forcum is a social psychologist who helps bridge the gap between evidence and public understanding. A former nonprofit president and marketing professor, she focuses on how people actually interpret complex issues—and how to design strategies that align with how people think, not how we wish they did.

Links

How to Human (substack)

We Made This Political (podcast)